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A Year Later, We Remember Alex Bolton

October 2018

It is hard to believe that this month will mark a year since we lost Alex.  I still remember getting the call.  I was in shock.  I couldn’t comprehend it.  How could he be gone so suddenly?  I had just seen him twice the week before–once at the DAYL Dinner with the Judiciary where we sat together and again at the DAYL Annual Meeting where he was elected DAYL Treasurer.  It took days for it to sink in, and throughout this year, there have been many times when I’ve forgotten that he’s not going to come bouncing into the room, like he always did.  Larger than life.  With that huge smile on his face.

I simply cannot make sense of why someone so vibrant, gifted, and good was taken from us so young.  The void he left is immeasurable, and while I do not pretend to know what it has been like for Alex’s faithful partner, J.R., or his dear mother, Carol, I will admit that his loss hit me hard.  We accomplished a lot together and I’m so lucky that I got to know him in the few years before he left us.

I think of Alex often and sometimes when I least expect to.  Earlier this year, I started writing those moments down.  Indulge me as I share some of them.

When I drive into the Belo Garage and don’t see his car in the super close parking spot that he somehow always managed to snag…
When I open my nightstand at home to reach for a pen and find the one from his old law firm that he once gave me…
When I see something amazing J.R. is doing to make this year the best DAYL Charity Ball yet…
When I use the Oxford comma…
When I see a law student get involved in DAYL…
When I remember how funny he thought it was to be included in a #BabyPeanutRyback (the hashtag I used for my kiddo in his first year) picture…
When I sit down at the table for our DAYL Board Meeting and he isn’t right beside me where he always sat…
When my landscaping company destroyed the knock-out roses in my backyard that he went on and on about…
When I think about the work we put into planning those first few DAYL Charity Balls…
When I have a moment where I want to throw a little shade and want to share it with someone who will really appreciate it…
When I ran the Freedom Run this year and thought back to last year and how Alex, Andy, and I were literally the last people to cross the finish line – what I wouldn’t give to pay more attention during the last really long talk I shared with him…
When I need a friend…

I know many others could make a list like this, which was admittedly cathartic, and that speaks volumes about him.  When Alex was interviewed in 2014 for the DAYL One to Watch article, he said “When I finish my legal career, I hope I can say my work and efforts left my community a better place than when I came to it. I hope I can make a positive difference in the lives of my clients and the community I serve.”  He certainly did.

As a Christian and knowing that Alex too was a believer, I know that he is in a much better place and that he is planning one heck of a welcome party for each of us when we get there.  But, as I write this, I can’t help feeling incredibly sad that we won’t get to see all that he was destined to accomplish here.  I long to be able to see what he would have accomplished as Chair of the DAYL Foundation, as President of DAYL, and beyond.  I only hope that those of us who knew him continue to share our memories of him and work to make sure his legacy lives on with future generations of young lawyers.

Alex would never forgive me if I didn’t take this opportunity to plug his absolute favorite DAYL event, the DAYL Charity Ball.  This year’s DAYL Charity Ball will be held on October 20, beginning at 8:00 p.m. at The Hall on Dragon, and will be so fun and so fabulous.  Thank you, thank you, thank you to this year’s Committee, including Event Chair, Nicole Muñoz; Co-Chairs, Sameen Abdullah, Jennifer Birdsall, Aubrey Boswell, Jaime DeWees, J.R. Gower, Whitney Green, Tiffany Kamuche, Dwayne Lewis, Ethan Minshull, Skylar Moore, Madhvi Patel, Andrea Perez, Berenice Medellín Pruettiangkura, BB Sanford, Andrea Seffens, and Adam Swartz; and Law Student Rock Star Committee Members, Clinton Willett and Annie Dzurilla.

To learn more about the plans for this year’s event, visit: https://www.daylcharityball.com/If you haven’t already, make sure you purchase your tickets by visiting: https://dayl.ejoinme.org/2018CharityBall.  You won’t want to miss the Fifth Annual DAYL Charity Ball!

Good, Better, Best,
Jennifer Ryback